Ever been offered something you cannot decline? May it be material or immaterial, the main contention resides on the idea that you are not able to say “no” and regretted the moment you had to say “yes”. You make yourself believe that everything is okay despite the pain and remorse that is building up. In other words, you try to smile your way out of the situation.

Humans as we are, we normally handle situations without thinking of the possible consequences in the end. For us, the past cannot compensate the present or the future with the present. What we seek for is the ability of the self to deal with prevailing events and acts that we believe to contribute and affect our well-being. In other words, we focus our attention to those that we believe to satisfy us innately and allow us to attain our goals and objectives in life.

To belittle the ability of the self to choose and decide warrants an understanding that the self is not fully satisfied. To say the least, the self is not innately empowered. It is not as sturdy and as strong as we would want it to be. No, such notion does not connote incompleteness but rather when you say “not innately empowered” speaks of the lack of the fulfillment in the innate self and psyche that allows the self to develop and nourish the way that he has envisioned his life and self to be. In short, an innately empowered self is one that is balanced and cultivated in relation to having a life that he has always wanted.

To be able to steer the wheel and navigate the ship in the right direction is what Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP for brevity) does best. It imparts knowledge in the self that allows it to be at par with his vision in life. To emphasize on vision entails the understanding that the self is able to live out his dreams, aspirations and ideals. He is able to see the reality beyond and over his imagination. In short, NLP allows the self to forget about the past, enrich the present and foresee the future accordingly.

What NLP does is that it ensures the self of a life that is entirely different from the rest. Although through NLP the life of another, one that speaks of positivity, could be used as a pattern to redirect his life, still it must be understood that the self must be lived not in relation to how others live theirs but of how you wish to live and make the most out of your life. The decision to the kind of life you will have still resides in you; you are your own discretion.

  Therefore, the next time you are caught in between, be sure to fight the urge to give up and wave your white flag. 
                             Fight until you realize your mistakes and learn – that is how life should be!

I am an energizer bunny. Indeed, I am. I make the necessary adjustments as to the furtherance of my being. My day depends on my ability to decipher the world and its many codes. In other words, I am the sole bearer of my life torch.

In today’s busy world, my day depends on the things that are surrounding me. May it be material, situations or events, I depend on the impact such creates for my life.

I admit, I am one who gets easily affected by the things that are happening around me. I could get easily addicted to over-thinking and tiring myself of the confusion that it may bring; the intensity of which is tantamount to my ability to adopt and respond to the situation on hand. That, whichever direction I may choose is of my own discretion and nobody else’s.

It has been said that stress or a state of mental or emotional strain or suspense brought about by the external world has its positive effects. To state, stress enables the brain to cognitively process the situation down to its core. In short, it paves the way for the individual to enable the growth of the intellect through logic, rationality and ability of the individual to be reasonable. To be able to do such permits the development and nourishment of the self without having to depend on others and external world for answers; that the self is innately capable of figuring a way out.

The likes of Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP encapsulates the idea that the self is able to prevent, cure and eliminate the buildup of stress in the self. It further emphasizes on the ability of the self to rediscover his weaknesses and limitations and at the same time, convert them into his strengths. Yes, that is how NLP works. It seeks to help the individual to develop both his intellectual and emotional states and nourish his innate capacity to be immersed with others and that of the world in general.

The core idea behind NLP is to aid man into the way he establishes and create rapport with others. In the process, such notion also empowers him from within. To say the least, NLP is more than just a self-improvement method but more so as a process of discovering and rediscovering your own innate greatness to be able to live accordingly. In short, be the very person you have envisioned yourself to be in order to satisfy your life goals and objectives.

Therefore, the next time you are hit with the “stress bug”, smile. Indeed, smile your stress way and keep a happy disposition!

I

I am. .

I know I must.

I believe I have to.

I wish I could do it NOW.

I must in order to make me happy.

I need to.

I really do.

I know I can.

However,

What am I supposed to do to let you go?

I cannot let another day make me miserable.

I have to get up and erase the negativity inside me!


Most often than not, we become addicted to the idea of falling in love and finding our knight in shining armor. However, is it still possible to find genuine love? I admit, to be in a relationship has been one of life’s many surprises. You get pulled in by the intensity of the love you feel towards another that, most often than not, you forget about yourself. Yes, to fall in love means you become selfless – for the wrong reason.

Do not get me wrong but to be in love and being loved in return has its fulfilling advantages. However, it too has its moments. Like the aforementioned, you become selfless and think of another more than your own. You would rather be involved with him than consider your own well-being. In other words, you forget that you and your self need the attention, too. Although to give part and share yourself to another is but inevitable, it should be taken in consideration that not everything should be shared or given to another.

To be in love means independency and not dependency. When you feel like saying no, do so. Do not let yourself suffer from the bondage of keeping yourself in a relationship for no logical and apparent reason. In short, do not let your clamor for belongingness to overrule your rationality.

Although to cling onto another is a natural humanistic gesture, still it should not be the end all and be all of living and more so of your existence. Instead, even when you are in a relationship, keep abreast of your individuality – that individually you are complete and can survive on your own.

With the help of NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming, the self is able to see beyond the superficial and traverse into the depths of the psyche. To do such a thing implies an innately endowed and empowered self that is ready to share part of himself and accept part of others in his life, a process that enables the self to inspire and be an inspiration at the same time.

Furthermore, NLP aims to help the individual stand up and keep moving forward. The diagram above, in whatever way should it be read, cores upon the readiness of the self to be complete again. The arrow mainly symbolizes the ability of the self to foresee and the tip (“I” ) emphasizes that the end all and be all of everything that the individual does is for his own benefit. Thus, the diagram simply connotes a process of self-realization that NLP seeks to impart upon the majority.

Indeed, life is an hourglass but in the process, life is more than an arrow pointing forward than an hourglass.